ellebee wrote:
I'm in less physical pain today, but I'm feeling very depressed. I feel ugly and I feel self-conscious and I feel like I made a mistake.
My fiance gets back from his overseas business trip on Wednesday. Funny, I got engaged and got braces in the same week. He proposed just before I took him to the airport last Saturday, and I got the braces Wednesday.
I'm dreading him seeing me like this. He fell in love with me with my teeth as they are/were. They aren't really bad, crooked on the bottom, a slight overbite and my bite is off on the left side (my top arch is off center to the right.
I feel like I am putting myself through this for the wrong reasons: wanting to be more "perfect" and not wanting Uncle Sam to get my FSA money.
My ortho said if I was still unhappy by my second adjustment (early January) he would take them off. I wonder if he thinks I will see enough encouraging improvement by then to keep going.
Or maybe I will get the top arch off and keep the bottom.
Right now my goal is to last one week. Baby steps. I think I might feel just as depressed for giving up so soon as I do for "doing this to myself."
Coming here is the best thing I have to hold onto right now. There is so much positive energy here.
Hugs,
Elle
You're not ugly and you've not made a mistake.
Your fiance will love you regardless of your braces.
I quite understand your not wanting Uncle Sam to get hold of your money. I've just had a lovely tax rebate thanks to braces.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a good bite. That's what we all want at the end of the day. This is a completely normal wish.
In 8 weeks time you will read your early posts and laugh that you could have thought of taking your braces off. In that time, you will also have gotten used to having braces, will have returned to your normal eating and general day to day living patterns, and your braces will have assumed a minor role in your life.
Believe me when I say this can - and will - happen. Braces are such a small deal really, you just need to get your head around the fact that they are. I don't let braces stop me doing anything I did before.
Above all, I don't let them make me feel miserable. And the best way to do this is to try and forget that they are there and get on with your life.
Crikey, if an ageing, set in her ways babyboomer like me can do it, anyone can!!