Announcing your decision to your wife/hubby/partner

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#16 Post by **SnowSara** » Fri Jul 20, 2007 12:57 pm

My bf was the one who gave me the encouragement I needed to go through with it in the first place, so he definitely knew I was getting them and was nothing but supportive. Also, kissing is not a problem at all, silly!

#17 Post by **jennielee81** » Fri Jul 20, 2007 4:20 pm

Great Topic!!

I started about 4 months before and told my hubby, while viewing an invisalign commercial, that I wanted to get my teeth fixed. he said that was fine, as long as it was what I wanted.

I assured him it was, and (I think) he figured I'd not follow through with any of it....

21 months later I had straight teeth!!

I suggest approacing it from the "I would like to...." perspective. It went well for me. I wish you similar success!

#18 Post by **Poeticbraces** » Fri Jul 20, 2007 9:18 pm

I will. Thanks for being so supportive.
I am just waiting for my ortho to confirm that she can do something for me. I will know in two weeks' time... such a short wait... such a long wait!

#19 Post by **Iceolated** » Sat Jul 21, 2007 11:25 pm

Even though my wife was somewhat worred that I wouldn't nibble on her neck quite the same way if my front incisors were straightened she supported my decision fully.

Kissing shouldn't be an issue. I think it's KK (correct me if I'm wrong on this) that is always saying that only the person restricts what they can do during their ortho treatment, braces shouldn't restrict you from any activity eating or otherwise

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As for neck nibbling...better than ever so I'm told.

Cheers,

ICE.

#20 Post by **Betty Bat** » Sun Jul 22, 2007 8:23 am

Dear Poeticbraces,
This may come as a shock to you, but I'm sure that your wife already knows what you are doing and what you are contemplating. You don't seem to be the type of person who could keep something like that secret. I'm betting that your wife knows a LOT of things about you that you don't think that she knows.

Sincerely,
A Wife

Sun Jul 22, 2007 12:37 pm

Dear Poeticbraces,
This may come as a shock to you, but I'm sure that your wife already knows what you are doing and what you are contemplating. You don't seem to be the type of person who could keep something like that secret. I'm betting that your wife knows a LOT of things about you that you don't think that she knows.

Sincerely,
A Wife

From another wife.....TRU DAT !

#22 Post by **Sistermadly** » Mon Jul 23, 2007 7:40 pm

Wait... no kissing for a month?! Is this (awful) thing true?

#23 Post by **joney** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 10:28 am

SisterMadly

Don't worry.

Wait... no kissing for a month?! Is this (awful) thing true?

No, it's not true. You can kiss straight away. Braces won't stop you kissing otherwise a lot fewer people would get them. Your teeth may be a bit tender for a few days but your lips are still the same and (most) people kiss with their lips and not their teeth.

Regards
Joney

#24 Post by **Sistermadly** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 12:04 pm

Well thank goodness for that. Suddenly my weekend plans look a whole lot brigher.

#25 Post by **PARR** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 2:08 pm

My partner came home after a dentist appt and told me dejectedly he was advised to get braces to prevent real issues down the line. We are both late 20s. So I started thinking my smile wasn't perfect and my bite overlapped a bit, and told him maybe we should do this together. He was incredibly relieved, for the acceptance and support. I've had my consult and yes, lots can be done to make a real improvement. We get wired up Aug 16. one extraction and 12-18 months for me, no extractions 24-30 months for him. We're doing full metal for 3 reasons: cost the least, most reliable (least problems), easiest to remove. We're not hiding anything. We're doing this for improved oral health and appearance.

So go ahead, let her know what's up and do it!

#26 Post by **Poeticbraces** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 12:32 pm

So, here is what happened.

Betty Bat & Way too Old, you were right...

My wife was essentially waiting for me to make up my mind...

When I told her I needed braces, she said:
1. that she thought so as the first bill for the otho arrived by post the day before...
2. that I should have done so 30 years ago but since I didn't it was a good idea to do it now.

My son who has got braces on now was delighted with the news (usually boys tend to imitate their dads, but when it is the other way round, it is a real treat).
My daughters hesitated between being amused and complaining about having a 40-something dad who would look like a teenager.

#27 Post by **Betty Bat** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 6:28 pm

Dear Poeticbraces,
I hope you weren't too disappointed by your wife's reaction. I just had a feeling that she was a smart, loving woman.

#28 Post by **Poeticbraces** » Wed Aug 01, 2007 10:15 pm

I was not disappointed at all. I thought it was a great reaction. Very loving, very caring.

#29 Post by **discomom** » Thu Aug 02, 2007 6:34 am

I would just tell her that you are unhappy with your appearance and would like braces to improve upon it. Unless you have a totally rotten marriage, I am sure that she will be supportive. My husband is going with me this coming Tuesday to my first consultation. He will be responsible for the payment as much as I will and he wants to be involved from the beginning. Good luck with everything. I know it will be fine. Lori

#30 Post by **discomom** » Thu Aug 02, 2007 6:36 am

OOOPS! Sorry PoeticBraces, I didn't see your post. I am glad that everything went well. Good luck with your journey!!!