A letter to my ortho

[braceface1230]

I think she's upset with those who she feels, were overly critical of her, for the exact same reason her ortho may not be so happy with her right now. It seems to me that she can dish it out, but she can't take it. Maybe I put it a little too harshly. But what does she expect from her ortho? He warned her that ceramics aren't as strong; one snapped off right away (he was right, not as strong). He warned her that they are bulkier. Seems to me she just didn't listen to his advise and wanted it "her way." I know we want to feel that we have a perfect grasp on everything we're doing, but that's pretty unrealistic.
The ortho's not a mind reader. He may be great at moving teeth, but that doesn't mean that he's any good at anticipating every concern you have. He's your ortho and is very busy, and asking him to sacrifice his lunch (probably the only time in 10 hrs that he doesn't have to deal with us somewhat difficult adults, and most certainly those brain dead kids!) is incredibly selfish. To write a letter to someone telling them that their time, training, and most sincere efforts aren't up to par with your expectations would cut into anyone. I think you owe your ortho a much deserved apology. He works hard treating hundreds of kids and can't be expected to explain every single minut detail on every procedure to every one of them. So if he fails to live up to your preconceived notion of what an ortho should do for you, try to remember that you aren't the center of his practice. And that even though you don't understand why he does something, there's probably a pretty good reason for it. And if you have a question, ask him to his face. And before you ask him, make sure you don't already have the only answer you'll accept stuck in your head. Try to trust that he knows what he's doing. And if he's shown to be untrustworthy, find a different ortho. But I'm sure he/she'll use the same approach to moving teeth... braces with lots of hooks that are uncomfortable.
I definately have to shut up now.

[fyrelight]

Admin, would you mind deleting this entire threat. All those negative comments - not so nice to read (ouch!) There is a nice way of saying "perhaps you could have worded the letter differently" and a not so nice way.

Excuse me, but isn't that EXACTLY what I did in my post?

[bbsadmin]

Enough. This topic is locked.