Braces and Marriage

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#1 Post by **Airbraceface** » Wed Sep 19, 2007 1:55 pm

I am 22 years old and tomorrow I will visit the ortho and figure my payment plan. I have been told that I will need to wear an expander for 6-8 months and then have braces for a total of 2 years. My boyfriend and I are talking about getting married and I don't know if I want to get married with braces. I don't want to put off my wedding for 2+ years and I can't wait to get braces any longer.

I am getting the expander in on 04oct and then metal braces after that.

My teeth from the front are great, but because of my cross bite I am wearing down the sides very fast. The reason I can't wait any longer is because he wants the expander to take.

Anyone else delt with getting married with braces?

HELP!

#2 Post by **DavidT** » Wed Sep 19, 2007 2:11 pm

I say go ahead with the braces and marriage. There will always be a reaon to not get braced. I think a lot of people would view you as confident, so comfortable with yourself that braces don't even matter.

I got married at 22 with crooked teeth. Not sure I like that. Definitely don't like the pictures.

#3 Post by **Miss Smiley** » Wed Sep 19, 2007 2:55 pm

Airbrace, just do it. I'm in the midst of trying to to plan when I'll be married

Don't worry, I'm not one of those crazy ones where the man has no idea. But I am not going to sacrifice anything. Why can't both happen harmoniously?!

#4 Post by **Airbraceface** » Wed Sep 19, 2007 3:47 pm

Thanks, I know in the scheme of life this decision is nothing but the pictures will always be there. Its a little nerve racking. I appreciate all of your comments. Ill let you know what happens tomorrow.

#5 Post by **Carolinahigh12** » Wed Sep 19, 2007 3:56 pm

If you are worried about the apperance of braces in your pictures you have a couple of choices
1) get ceramic uppers or 2) if you have a good photographer then have then edit the brackets from the photo itself.

Remember the commitment for marriage is for life, braces are only temparary, why put your life on hold for something that may not last any longer than 2 1/2 yrs. Be Happy and enjoy life !!!

#6 Post by **Choppers** » Wed Sep 19, 2007 10:01 pm

My opinion differs from most here. I want to be the most beautiful that I can be on my wedding day and my braces don't fit into my dream day. If I were in that position and couldn't hold off marriage until the end of my treatment, I would have my braces taken off. I'm self-conscious about my braces smile and I wouldn't want that to show on my big day. Of course, I wouldn't want crooked teeth in my photos, so I would wait until my teeth were reasonably straight before getting them off. In your situation, that's what I would do.

I just finished reading Jenna Jameson's autobiography. She plied off her own braces so a strip club would let her work there!

#7 Post by **Choppers** » Wed Sep 19, 2007 10:44 pm

Considering how successful she is now, her hasty decision seems to have paid off.

#8 Post by **Airbraceface** » Thu Sep 20, 2007 11:26 am

Well I decided to go through with it and I went to my appointment. We did molds and a wax bite impression and I had rubber spacers inserted to make way for metal brackets for the expander.

Next week we are putting the brackets on and taking another mold then more spacers. October 4th I get the expander cemented into my mouth. Woot.

I will be glad when its over!

#9 Post by **metalmander** » Thu Sep 20, 2007 1:56 pm

Hey, Airbraceface! Thanks for your reply on my post. I'm new, like you, as you know, so maybe this suggestion won't work because I know nothing about expanders. But if you wear an expander for 6 to 8 months and THEN get braces, does that mean you do get the expander taken out before the braces are put on? If so, could you just get married somewhere between the time you get that taken out and you get your braces put on?

#10 Post by **metalmander** » Thu Sep 20, 2007 1:57 pm

ignore this..

#11 Post by **ellebee** » Thu Sep 20, 2007 2:45 pm

Hello -- I'm engaged and I'm holding off on setting the date until I know my braces will be off. I'm enjoying being engaged, we just bought a house, for us there is no big rush to marry. Of course it is the second time for each of us and we already have our kids.

Other than being ready to start a family, why not wait to get married until your orthodonture is complete? Or if you really can't wait, have a simple ceremony now and the big party later.

I have a little different dilemna. My daughter is getting married on Oct. 20 and I was supposed to be finished with braces by then, but it's not looking promising. I really don't like my options. I am concerned about the damage to my teeth by having the brackets removed and replaced, although I am considering having the top 6 front teeth temporarily debraced. I'm especially worried about my two top front porcelain veneers. So I may just depend on having the photos retouched.

I guess we'll see how it goes. I have an appointment Monday. My ortho may reposition a bracket on one of my stupid rotated lower laterals. Maybe we'll see some real progress after that. The elastics certainly have my midline lining up, too bad the torque of the elastics caused the rotation to revert. I'm wearing double elastics on that side, single on the other.

And so it goes.

#12 Post by **cosmicgirl** » Fri Sep 21, 2007 9:07 am

Hello Airbraceface!
Congratulations on forthcoming wedding - and also your decision to get wired up! I'm sure you'll feel conscious of your braces at first, but after a week you'll (almost) forget they're there. Get ceramic brackets, white wire and bands and they'll disappear! By the time your big day arrives I'm sure you'll be accomplished at smiling discreetly with your top lip just covering the upper brace. Your teeth will have probably straightened out by then so there will be a lovely, neat set of pearls! And if you don't want to bare your gnashers, then smile seductively a la Helena Christensen. On the plus side, the braces tend to push your lips out - I have a fabulous pout now without resorting to collagen implants!
Good luck with it all - the work will be over and done with soon enough - the sooner you start the sooner you'll have that winning smile.

#13 Post by **Silliry** » Fri Sep 21, 2007 11:19 am

I say go for it! I went for my ortho consult 12 months before my wedding (which will be next June) and had my braces put on with 11 months to go until the wedding. I figured that my wedding is the ONLY time in my life where I'll have hundreds of photos of me and my future husband, so there is no better time to get them on! I haven't yet decided if I will have them taken off before the wedding and then put back on...I probably will, but I'm also okay with my braces and how my smile will look (I'll only be about 2 months away from done with treatment at that point!)

#14 Post by **jumbie** » Sun Sep 23, 2007 4:53 pm

When I got my braces on my b/f was suprised cause he did not know I was serious about getting them. He is still very supportive but the issue with getting married did come up. Although we are planning to get married, we are not quite financially ready to do so . I told him the braces just bought us two more years to get things together cause there is no way in hell I am getting my wedding pics taken with anything in my mouth. At the same time I think getting married was part of the motivation for getting them fixed in the first place as I also had bad visions of my overjet from in pictures taken from the side. Not cute.

#15 Post by **Airbraceface** » Mon Sep 24, 2007 12:56 pm

I haven't decided what to do yet. When I told my boyfriend it would be two years till they are off he seamed bothered by that. Its weird because he normally jokes about the marriage issue. We shall see!