why am i so scared?!?
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shanalouis
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why am i so scared?!?
I waited 7 years to finally get where i am and i am very happy but i am also soooooooooooooooo scared. i cant stop thinking about surgery. i am scared something will go wrong. i am afraid of not waking up. so many of you post so many complications you are having during your recover and i am afraid i will have them too. i dont feel physically and mentally prepared for this. i feel like this is a bad desicion. and i am only doing it for cosmetic reasons. i feel so depressed and feel like i am left in the dark. i am really scared.
Everybody is scared...If somebody says they are not, they're lying. Every one of us thinks "what if I don't wake up" or "what if the surgery goes wrong"...
I'll be blunt with you...If you truly feel you are not mentally or physically ready for this surgery, DO NOT do it now. The recovery is hard enough when you ARE prepared. Doing it with mental or physical issues or when you are questioning it all, I think, is a recipe for disaster and disappointment.
A few other comments:
1) You shouldn't feel ashamed of doing this only for cosmetic reasons. While I would never personally recommend somebody do this surgery for that only reason, each person is different. Only you can make the determination if the reasons are "good enough". And you know what? You only have to answer to yourself...nobody else.
2) Yes, we all post "complications". Your recovery is not going to go 100% to the book. And even if it does, the recovery process is new to you and you're bound to have questions and concerns. Nobody posts these issues to scare anybody, but instead to get the opinions of people that have been through this. I wouldn't let this deter you.
I hope you can get through your issues and make the decision that is best for you!
Best Regards
Chicago29
I'll be blunt with you...If you truly feel you are not mentally or physically ready for this surgery, DO NOT do it now. The recovery is hard enough when you ARE prepared. Doing it with mental or physical issues or when you are questioning it all, I think, is a recipe for disaster and disappointment.
A few other comments:
1) You shouldn't feel ashamed of doing this only for cosmetic reasons. While I would never personally recommend somebody do this surgery for that only reason, each person is different. Only you can make the determination if the reasons are "good enough". And you know what? You only have to answer to yourself...nobody else.
2) Yes, we all post "complications". Your recovery is not going to go 100% to the book. And even if it does, the recovery process is new to you and you're bound to have questions and concerns. Nobody posts these issues to scare anybody, but instead to get the opinions of people that have been through this. I wouldn't let this deter you.
I hope you can get through your issues and make the decision that is best for you!
Best Regards
Chicago29
Being scared is part of the human being. Imagine a world where nobody would be scare. Life would be boring and suicidal. I had the same tought as you before my surgery. The idea of the anesthesia was bothering. There are hundred of thousand of people every year go thru a surgery of some kind and anesthesia problem are kind rare nowaday. Anesthesist are really precise in their dosage and you are monitored from every angle you could imagine. You have to go thru at least one of those to see that there is nothing there and that actually it's quite fun being anesthised. Really i'm starting to love everything that's called anethesia or sedation. Your awake and then you wake up. That all. There is nothing in between and you wont remember going out.
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ColoradoGirl
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Yeah, recovery sucks. I had a great team of surgeons and nurses, and they made me feel very reassured before the surgery. It hasn't been a picnic recovering, but really it's only a little worse than a very bad flu--bearable. Of course, I haven't had any major complications (knock on wood). The good thing about it is that everybody can see you're going through something hard, and they keep telling you what a good job you're doing. 
Completely understandable... I was terrified before surgery and it was all I could think about.
I remember waking up in recovery and just being so happy that it was over and I survived... I was babbling away to the nurse in a drug-induced haze! I'm pretty sure I made no sense!!
Looking back I wish somebody had told me that it wasn't going to be that bad. So I will - It was not that bad, not heaps of fun but no way near as bad as I had thought it was going to be.
I really believe a positive attititude will help you through though.. work on it. Celebrate the achievements no matter how small - I was bragging to everyone when I got to eat beef broth and jelly for dinner!!
Good luck
I remember waking up in recovery and just being so happy that it was over and I survived... I was babbling away to the nurse in a drug-induced haze! I'm pretty sure I made no sense!!
Looking back I wish somebody had told me that it wasn't going to be that bad. So I will - It was not that bad, not heaps of fun but no way near as bad as I had thought it was going to be.
I really believe a positive attititude will help you through though.. work on it. Celebrate the achievements no matter how small - I was bragging to everyone when I got to eat beef broth and jelly for dinner!!
Good luck
Try not to be scared. I know my surgery didn't work initially but I will always be an advocate for maxillo facial surgery. I was bullied for most of my life and receiving orthodontic and orthognathic treatment has changed my life. 
I was nervous but not scared, more excited i think. Waited all my life for these chances. I am so grateful to my orthodontist and surgeon.
I was nervous but not scared, more excited i think. Waited all my life for these chances. I am so grateful to my orthodontist and surgeon.