HI al,,
Just wondering id any one could ioffer some advice. My childrenb are aged 20, 18, 14 &? 3yrs. I am having double jaw surgery (Bimaxillary osteotomy) in December. My children are keen to visit me while i am hospital. My surgeon predicts a 3-5day stay in hospital, with 2 days in high depency unit (!!).
I have little idea what the recovery looks like- although I have seen a few pictures on blogs and so on. Will i be wired to machines etc? I am not sure if it is better to tell my kids not to come Can anyone advise whether this might be frightening for my children? Any advice gratefully received.
should children visit you in hospital after surgery?
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Re: should children visit you in hospital after surgery?
I was told by my surgeon not to have children come into the hospital!
Personally I wouldn't allow any of them in on the first day (that is from watching my sister and DP reactions on the first day), I'd let the 3 older ones in maybe the next day as for the 3 year old - if you can wait a little longer.
My nephew was 4 at the time I had mine and he was stand offish at first (he saw me a week after surgery) and to get him to come around a bit, we played a game. Because I was numb in the face, I would get him to gently touch a spot of my face when I had my eyes closed and I had to guess where - he thought it was great as I usually got it wrong LOL - and he was fine with my look after that!
But definately don't let the 3 year old in on the first day! If you are anything like me, I just allowed the blood to drip out of my nose/mouth as I was too scared to swallow it and I'd start vomitting again!
Personally I wouldn't allow any of them in on the first day (that is from watching my sister and DP reactions on the first day), I'd let the 3 older ones in maybe the next day as for the 3 year old - if you can wait a little longer.
My nephew was 4 at the time I had mine and he was stand offish at first (he saw me a week after surgery) and to get him to come around a bit, we played a game. Because I was numb in the face, I would get him to gently touch a spot of my face when I had my eyes closed and I had to guess where - he thought it was great as I usually got it wrong LOL - and he was fine with my look after that!
But definately don't let the 3 year old in on the first day! If you are anything like me, I just allowed the blood to drip out of my nose/mouth as I was too scared to swallow it and I'd start vomitting again!
Re: should children visit you in hospital after surgery?
THat is really helpful, thank you. How old were your kids when you had surgery?