The short version is I have an open bite, it's causing me pain, but I don't know if the surgery would 1. fix my pain or 2. dramatically change my face (not a good thing in my opinion).
I am 23 and have had an open bite since I was 10. Had braces and other orthodontics from ages 12-17 but never wanted to have surgery. I don't think I look deformed (certainly not like the before and after photos in brochures), and this problem has never affected my quality of life, other than being a slightly messy eater

For the past 4 months, though, I have had minor jaw pain and it is getting worse. So I had a consultation with an orthodontist and he referred me to an oral surgeon. The surgeon made me feel even more scared than I already was. I asked if the surgery would fix my jaw pain and he said probably, but not for sure (well, why do it then?!). I asked if it would change my face and he said yes, my chin will be more prominent and shorter. And I was shocked to find out it is not an outpatient surgery, but in fact requires a 1-2 night hospital stay. 8 weeks eating soft foods and 2 weeks off from work, ouch. Not to mention the expense and insurance hassle. Overall, the surgery and braces process sounds like a big pain in the a** that would significantly impact my life for the next 1-2 years.
I really don't know what to do. I want my jaw to stop hurting, but I dread the thought of having braces again as an adult; it seems so embarrassing. I know my face would probably look better, but what if it doesn't, and I'm stuck with it? And what if I go through all this, and my jaw still hurts? My plan now is to get a second opinion from another surgeon - maybe this guy just isn't the right one for me. But overall, I feel like I'm at an impasse. Should I go to a TMJ specialist, maybe? I would love to hear similar experiences and advice. Thanks!