Hi Jane,
Nausea... oh yeah! To give you the gory details, I had surgery on a Tuesday morning, and I first threw up Tuesday evening. It was just blood, and because it was all liquid, it wasn't a problem even though I was banded shut. I then threw up a lot more once in the night, after getting up to go to the bathroom. I think moving around upset my tummy. Again, it was blood, and passed easily through the bands. After each episode, the nurse gave me a lovely anti-nauseant shot in my butt/hip. The shot was great, and took care of the nausea, and also helped me sleep. Really, the nausea wasn't a big deal. By Wednesday morning, everything was fine. I hope that wasn't too gory for you.
I work in a call centre, and originally took 4 weeks off work, but I am now extending it to 6. I don't actually work the phones anymore, but I still have to do a lot of talking. I don't think I could have gone back before 4 weeks was up. I am kind of ready to go back now, but my orthodontist just doubled the weight of my bands, so my mouth is really clamped shut, and talking is an extra hassle. Also, eating takes forever and so does brushing my teeth, and putting my elastics back in after I eat. I just figured it would be easier to take a couple of extra weeks, and my surgeon wrote me a doctor's note, no questions asked. I am not one of those work-a-holic types, and I would rather make sure that I am more than ready to go back before I do. I'm enjoying my time off work too. It's great for the emotional health, as well as the physical health.
My dad drove me to and from my surgery (4 and 1/2 hours from where I live) and he stayed in a hotel while I was there. During that time, he didn't have much to do because I was under the care of nurses, but once we got home it was helpful having him around. For the first few days at home, I didn't really have the energy to make my own food. If you want anything more than Ensure or Boost, you might want to have somebody around to help you your meals. Even if it's just throwing a can of soup in the blender and then in the microwave for you. Also, this person can help with any unexpected situations. I woke up one morning really hungry, and I didn't have the energy to make it all the way to the kitchen to get myself some breakfast.
I would say for the most part, about one week after surgery, you should be able to take care of yourself for the most part. It's the things like doing the dishes and cleaning up that you won't feel like doing for about 2 weeks though, so help from a friend for a few hours every now and then would be good.
For me, I probably wouldn't have wanted to fly for at least 2 weeks after surgery. But I had upper surgery as well, which causes more congestion, as the cuts to the jaw are either near or through the sinuses. (I'm not sure which.) I wasn't allowed to blow my nose for 2 weeks, so if I wasn't allowed to do that, I figure a surgeon might discourage somebody from flying during that time frame too, because of the pressure it could cause on the sinuses. But I don't know for sure. That would definitely be a question for your surgeon.
I hope I've been of help here. Every situation is different, and these are just answers based on my experience. And sorry I'm so long-winded, but I'm a detail kind of person. Also, I have lots of time on my hands right now.
Best of luck as you go ahead with this...
peanut