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A lot of heartache and triumph brought me here.

Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2016 9:23 am
by emily0709
Ok, so that sounds like a strange title.

I'm not going to bore you with a lot of details ... but here, in a nutshell, is why I got braces on my teeth yesterday.

I am 37 years old, and a single mom of a 8 and 6 year old. I have been divorced for 5 years. I was in an abusive marriage, and thought very little of myself. I did not take care of myself and in the years I was married I "let myself go." Finally, I got up the courage to leave. Life has been good these past 5 years. I went from being a stay at home mom to a writer for a local paper. Then out of the blue, my best friend was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. She was 35. Two kids. She was my soulmate in a friend. She lived for 17 months after she was diagnosed. 12/13/14 was a year. In the year she has been gone, I have learned that a healthy body is a blessing. I started going to the gym. Eating better. I have lost over 50 pounds. She did not have the "luxury" of being healthy - I did. So I worked my butt off.

My teeth have always bothered me. I have a crooked smile - a really crooked smile. I had braces for 3 years as a teen and then did not get my wisdom teeth out until it was too late and they had shifted everything. Badly. I got them out when they became infected because insurance covered it. My ex-husband never let me get braces, even with a reasonable payment plan.

Now, after coming up from "rock bottom" I am stable enough to pay for them myself. Yesterday I had a tooth pulled and braces put on. I am in pain (normal?) yet couldn't be happier.

Re: A lot of heartache and triumph brought me here.

Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2016 10:40 am
by 44yobraceface
Wow, what a turbulent time you have survived through. Your fighting spirit and perspective on life is inspirational xx :rose:

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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2016 10:56 am
by emily0709
Thank you. :)

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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2016 11:32 am
by Len
This was inspiring. You're still so young, you're taking care of your kids by yourself and deserve that second chance more than anyone else. Good luck on your journey :HugeGrin:

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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2016 12:40 pm
by emily0709
Thank you! I am so happy I finally did it. And I am so happy for Motrin. :mrgreen:

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Posted: Tue Mar 22, 2016 1:52 pm
by littlething
Wow, you are inspiring! Good for you! Good luck on your journey - hope to follow along with your progress!

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Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2016 4:15 am
by Lovelyteeth
Good on you. Your story is inspirational. I wish you all the best for your journey ahead. You possess strength and courage and determination - what a wonderful example you are for your children.

Re: A lot of heartache and triumph brought me here.

Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2016 5:18 am
by emily0709
Thanks, all. She inspired me. She really did. I feel her with me all the time. Even though I lost her, I feel better about myself than I ever have. Getting in shape and getting my smile fixed were two of the biggest things I wanted to do for ME. It feels good to be doing them. My daughter (8) thinks the braces are cute. That's good, because she will need them herself in a few years. :wink:

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Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2016 8:30 am
by emily0709
Day 3 (ouch!)

Re: A lot of heartache and triumph brought me here.

Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2016 9:27 pm
by Lovelyteeth
Hang in there. They are the words I tell you and myself. I'm coming up to 6 weeks and they hurt still. I though by now things would have settled. Arghhhh. It's not all teeth I suppose. They take it in turns. Your 8 year old's response to your braces was a lot sweeter than my 8 year old son who upon seeing them on my first day said that I look scary. Lol. Lucky my sensitive 10 year old son came home from school and said 'oh I didn't even notice them'. Most likely they'll need braces too in a few years.

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Posted: Thu Mar 24, 2016 5:19 am
by emily0709
Lovelyteeth wrote:Hang in there. They are the words I tell you and myself. I'm coming up to 6 weeks and they hurt still. I though by now things would have settled. Arghhhh. It's not all teeth I suppose. They take it in turns. Your 8 year old's response to your braces was a lot sweeter than my 8 year old son who upon seeing them on my first day said that I look scary. Lol. Lucky my sensitive 10 year old son came home from school and said 'oh I didn't even notice them'. Most likely they'll need braces too in a few years.

Ha ha - my 6 year old last night said "Mommy, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but you look kinda weird."

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Posted: Fri Mar 25, 2016 3:43 am
by Lovelyteeth
:) lol

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Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2016 7:22 am
by emily0709
One week in today! Pain free after days 3 and 4 were really kinda rough ... just a pressure now. The only thing that are bugging me are the "speed bumps" that I have cemented in my back molars to keep me from biting on the bottom brackets. I have a 75% overbite.

Still def not eating like I used to, with Easter yesterday I was all about the mac and cheese, not feeling like chewing meat or even salad yet. I miss salad.

Something positive - I had a wire poking a tiny bit out of the molar tube that wasn't there before. I was able to bend it to so it didn't irritate my cheek but it's evidence of my teeth already shifting. :mrgreen:

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Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2016 9:37 am
by kazinka
What a inspiring and jaw dropping post! Glad that your life is really mending itself quickly!! Having braces and going to the gym will seriously change your whole appearance from the outside, a nice gleaming smile and great figure is the goal right now :jump:

If the poking wire still persists you should have some dental wax given to you by the orthodontist that will temporarily reduce the irritation, its works really well at night-time!

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Posted: Mon Mar 28, 2016 9:58 am
by testimony777
Congratulations on getting through your first week! I am a little over one week in and am pretty much able to eat without pain now (still can't bite anything with my front teeth though). Your story is so inspiring! I am so glad that on the other end of what sounds like a lot of heartache you have learned the importance of loving and caring for yourself. Thank you for sharing and congrats again :D