I got my braces off, 2 months ago.

Since then, I've been wearing my Essix retainer up top, 24/7. I've been wearing the Hawley on the bottom, at night, as instructed, but also quite a bit during the day when I'm on the computer (at work) and not interacting in person.
On my orthodontist's instructions, after I was debraced I went to my dentist to get a bridge made, to replace a tooth I foolishly had had taken out when I was much younger. Because it has been such a long time that the tooth has been gone, the bone there has eroded so an implant is not possible. A bridge is the way to go, in my instance.
However, the lower back teeth on the left (where I need the bridge) are much higher in position than the lower back teeth on the right. This is because those teeth had been almost sideways into the gap where the one tooth was missing; and now they are standing up straight and tall like they should have been along along, having been retrieved from their sideways situation. The left teeth, in back, top and bottom, meet pretty well. The dentist said they meet perfectly. However, on the right, the top and bottom teeth, in back, meet only on one cusp of one tooth at the very back, and then on one cusp of another tooth up front, with two top teeth in between the two cusp teeth, making no contact at all with the bottom teeth!

The dentist says the teeth on the right side that are meeting at the cusp only, will break!

I am appalled.
I took the impressions and x-rays from the dentist to the orthodontist, along with the dentist's note about his concerns. The orthodontist and I talked, and the orthodontist poo poo'd it all, he said I was fine.

I went back to the dentist a few days later, and he asked me how my visit with the orthodontist had gone, and told me the orthodontist had not contacted him. I said that the orthodontist had told me he would contact the dentist! The dentist is going to wait a few more days (professional courtesy, he said) to hear from the orthodontist. Then he will contact the orthodontist if he hasn't heard from him.
When I was considering getting braces, I had had two separate consultations with the orthodontist, because I had a consultation and was shocked at the price and put it off for a year (while I saved up some money), and then I had to have a new consultation because it had been too long since the first consultation. So, two consultations. I told the orthodontist that I wanted my teeth to look better, and to have the same good function that I needed. I repeated in more than one conversation, that i wanted good function, because I knew most of his customers (teenagers) probably had no idea that the functionality of their teeth was a concern too. He assured me there would be no problems whatever with my function, and he said my teeth would still have a tiny bit of overbite--since I didn't want jaw surgery--but that everything would be a happy ending.
Now this.

I just want to hug my pillow and cry and cry. I goofed up my teeth, for vanity? I told myself that they would work better and be easier to clean. I put up with 2 years of braces, and as an older person too! I am so upset.
Since the dentist and the orthodontist have not had their conversation yet, I don't even know what can be done. When I asked the dentist if I needed to be rebraced, he said, "Probably." I'm willing, if it will fix it, but I'm not willing to pay a cent more, at least not to this orthodontist. I've already paid a lot for this journey.
Have any of you been in similar circumstances? Do you have any suggestions for me, besides going into hyper-rage--that's where I'm staying right now.
Real